Brigid Says: Is the honeymoon over? Not exactly

By Brigid Edmunds-Lawrence - [email protected]

The most common question I get asked these days is “How’s married life?”

It’s not an odd question given my newly-acquired marital status, but my answer is always the same.

“Good,” I deadpan.

It’s not that married life isn’t treating my husband and me well. It’s just that we’re settling into our pre-marriage routine, so nothing feels that different.

And when you’re dating someone, people don’t often ask how dating life is, so I’m not used to all the inquiries.

But one of my editors sent me an email with a study on the “honeymoon periods” for couples, specifically in Pennsylvania. According to the study, the honeymoon period in our state lasts just shy of seven months.

That was shocking to me.

My honeymoon period ended the day after we got back from our honeymoon.

Very quickly, we both had to get back to work, and as a newspaper reporter, I don’t work the same nine-to-five shift my husband does.

Suddenly, we were right back into taking turns cooking, getting home at different hours in the evening and sometimes even going to bed at different times.

Our weekends are spent doing chores around the house, trying to see both our families, catching up on our TV shows and grocery shopping. We have gotten very good at the married-couple routine.

I don’t want this to sound like a complaint – I’m happy, I really am. It just seems like we’ve always been in this rhythm.

Outside of my job, it’s nice to have this lifestyle.

At work, it can get pretty fast-paced and hectic, depending on what’s happening throughout the county and what sort of stories I get put on. So when I leave for the day, it’s refreshing to have someone who is content with cooking a decent meal and watching “Parks and Recreation” with me for the fourth time.

It’s not to say nothing is different.

Suddenly, our relationship has gotten a lot more serious, and when talking about the future and our hopes and goals, I don’t feel like I’m in my own world anymore. As my husband constantly reminds me, I have a teammate for life.

It’s this unspoken bond, one that everyone said we would feel after we were married, that has made us much closer these past few months.

It’s not to say I didn’t believe things would be different, it’s just that I didn’t fully understand how I would feel until now.

I just don’t know how to put it all into words when people ask.

So if you happen to bump into me when I’m out and about, don’t hesitate to ask me how I’m doing or how’s work.

Or even how my husband is doing.

But if you insist on asking me how married life is, don’t expect much of an answer.

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By Brigid Edmunds-Lawrence

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Reach Brigid Edmunds-Lawrence at 570-991-6113 or on Twitter @brigidedmunds

Reach Brigid Edmunds-Lawrence at 570-991-6113 or on Twitter @brigidedmunds